Episode's summary
There are periods where your life hasn’t completely fallen apart, but it somehow stops feeling like yours. Your routine slips, you start avoiding things, your sleep goes to shit, you stop training, you eat differently, you scroll too much, old habits start creeping back in and before you know it, the gap between the version of you that you know exists and the version of you that you’re currently living as feels enormous.In this episode, I’m sharing 10 life-changing rules for getting your life back when you feel helpless, stuck or like you’ve lost control of yourself a little. Not a dramatic reinvention, not a punishment, not a brand new personality by Monday morning, but the actual things that help you start moving again when you feel like you’ve gone backwards.We talk about shame, relapse, all-or-nothing thinking, old coping mechanisms, discipline, self-compassion, routines, identity and why one bad day so easily becomes a bad week, or a bad month, if you let the story around it get bigger than the thing…
There are periods where your life hasn’t completely fallen apart, but it somehow stops feeling like yours. Your routine slips, you start avoiding things, your sleep goes to shit, you stop training, you eat differently, you scroll too much, old habits start creeping back in and before you know it, the gap between the version of you that you know exists and the version of you that you’re currently living as feels enormous.In this episode, I’m sharing 10 life-changing rules for getting your life back when you feel helpless, stuck or like you’ve lost control of yourself a little. Not a dramatic reinvention, not a punishment, not a brand new personality by Monday morning, but the actual things that help you start moving again when you feel like you’ve gone backwards.We talk about shame, relapse, all-or-nothing thinking, old coping mechanisms, discipline, self-compassion, routines, identity and why one bad day so easily becomes a bad week, or a bad month, if you let the story around it get bigger than the thing…
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10 Life-Changing Rules for Relapse, Setbacks & Feeling Helpless
ListenedThere are periods where your life hasn’t completely fallen apart, but it somehow stops feeling like yours. Your routine slips, you start avoiding things, your sleep goes to shit, you stop training, you eat differently, you scroll too much, old habits start creeping back in and before you know it, the gap between the version of you that you know exists and the version of you that you’re currently living as feels enormous.In this episode, I’m sharing 10 life-changing rules for getting your life back when you feel helpless, stuck or like you’ve lost control of yourself a little. Not a dramatic reinvention, not a punishment, not a brand new personality by Monday morning, but the actual things that help you start moving again when you feel like you’ve gone backwards.We talk about shame, relapse, all-or-nothing thinking, old coping mechanisms, discipline, self-compassion, routines, identity and why one bad day so easily becomes a bad week, or a bad month, if you let the story around it get bigger than the thing…
What Fitness Influencers Don’t Tell You | An Honest Q&A
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The Skin I Left Behind: Surgery, Femininity & Dating After Betrayal | 9 Lives S4E4
ListenedWhat happens after you get the body you always wanted? After losing 100lbs, I was left with loose skin that no amount of training could change. Eventually, I made the decision to have it surgically removed. But this episode isn't really about surgery. It's about what came after. About learning to inhabit a body that had changed almost beyond recognition, finding my way back to my femininity after years of survival mode, and navigating dating, intimacy and trust after betrayal. Because changing your body is one thing. Learning to feel safe inside it again is another. In this episode of 9 Lives, I'm talking honestly about loose skin removal surgery, body confidence, femininity, betrayal, dating again and what it really means to come home to yourself. Sometimes the final transformation isn't becoming someone new. It's finally feeling like you again. Until next week, Cass 🖤
How to Make Life Work With a Neurodivergent Brain | 9 Lives S4E3
ListenedI spent most of my life thinking I was too sensitive, too intense, too obsessive and somehow simultaneously capable of doing extraordinary things and completely incapable of doing things everyone else seemed to find easy. Then I found out I was autistic. In this episode of 9 Lives, I’m talking about receiving an autism diagnosis as an adult, the signs I missed for decades, masking, burnout, sensory overwhelm and why so many neurodivergent women can become incredibly good at appearing “fine” while quietly exhausting themselves trying to keep up. But this episode isn’t just about diagnosis. It’s about what happens afterwards. I’m sharing the practical things that have helped me build a life that actually works with my brain: managing executive dysfunction, protecting deep focus, reducing sensory overload, communicating more explicitly, working with my energy rather than against it, and letting go of systems that were never designed for me in the first place. Because I spent years asking, “How do I make myself…
The Trauma Toolkit I Wish I Had | 9 Lives S4E2
ListenedWhat do you do when you don’t feel like yourself anymore? After trauma, heartbreak, burnout or a period of simply trying to survive, it can feel like the person you used to be has disappeared. Your nervous system is on high alert, everything feels harder than it should, and “getting back to normal” can feel completely impossible. In this episode I’m sharing the practical tools that helped me find my way back to myself. This isn’t about pretending everything is fine or forcing yourself to “heal” faster. It’s about what you can actually do when you’re in survival mode: how to ground yourself, regulate your nervous system, rebuild trust in yourself and slowly create a life that feels like yours again. Think of this episode as a toolkit for the days when your brain is telling you that you’ll feel like this forever. You won’t. If you don’t feel like yourself anymore, this one's for you. Until next week, Cass 🖤